The Washington Post recently published several letters from people explaining why they like their suburban lives. A few excerpts:

But having lived in a suburban setting for 30-plus years, I don’t recognize any of those assumptions. My neighborhood, on the fringe of a city of 560,000, is multicultural, interconnected and solar-friendly. Everyone knows each other and finds ways to help with any need. We can walk to grocers, restaurants and other basic services. Many neighborhood groups meet regularly to play poker, discuss books or just go to lunch.
Ours is a planned community, but houses were built by different builders at different times. Thus no “little boxes made of ticky-tacky” all in a row. Just opening up areas to be developed without good planning produces the negative view of suburbs. It doesn’t have to be that way — suburban living can be as good as it gets…
Forty years later, we realize that’s not going to happen. Daily life is simply easier here. For food shopping and medical care, there are abundant choices with abundant free parking. The logistics of taking our two toddlers to preschool programs was much simpler than my struggles navigating strollers on buses or in the subway. Connections with our community have been literally lifesaving, and the scale of life is small enough that local officials are responsive. When we moved here and our garbage wasn’t collected one day, a neighbor told us to call the town’s highway department. A supervisor came by, and rang our bell to apologize. The post office took checks; the clerk remarked with a smile, “We know where you live.”…
I love the old custom architecture and charm of my city friends’ homes. But it sure is nice to be able to just go to Home Depot and buy a door or window that fits instead of needing custom everything. All that special old brick and special old stained glass comes with a hefty dose of special pain in the you-know-what.
While the writers do not exactly go through the seven reasons why Americans love suburbs, there are some patterns in this small selection of letters: the suburbs are not necessarily what outsiders might think, life in the suburbs can be pretty good, and there are certain conveniences to suburban life.
Another observation one letter writer hinted at: people are shaped by their environments. Making a major move from one place to another can require a lot of work and change. People have some flexibility and they can also get very used to where they are. With millions of Americans having grown up in the suburbs and millions living there now, the suburbs are known, if not preferred by some.
This also reminds me of an ongoing question I have about places: how exactly do people learn about their own community and communities that are not their own? People have only so much time and ability to see or hear about other places. How does a suburbanite find out what it is like living in a big city or a rural area and all the different possibilities in either of those? There are common narratives and assumptions made about all of these places they might be hard to dispel without direct experiences in other settings.










